You don't need fixing.
You need Freedom.
This isn’t therapy. endless processing, or surface-level fixes.
It’s Reinvention. Realignment. Radical honesty with empathy and edge.
NORA RETANA
Communication & Relationship Expert
Speaker · Creator of the T.R.U.T.H. Method™
FOR WOMEN:
You're not crazy. You're in a cycle.
And I'm here to help you break it, for good.
I help women untangle the patterns keeping them stuck in painful relationship dynamics, whether those patterns come from unhealed trauma, emotional unavailability, or partners who just won't meet you where you are.
I teach women how to decode confusing dynamics, regulate their own responses, and spot the hidden red flags of avoidant or narcissistic partners before they get pulled in deeper.
I specialize in helping them interrupt recycled trauma responses. stop silencing themselves, and find a new way forward that's rooted in clarity, self-worth, and connection that actually feels safe.
My work supports female clients who are ready to:
I will guide you back to your truth with clarity, compassion, and the strategy to actually change the pattern, regain confidence, and finally feel free.
And I'm here to help you break it, for good.
I help women untangle the patterns keeping them stuck in painful relationship dynamics, whether those patterns come from unhealed trauma, emotional unavailability, or partners who just won't meet you where you are.
I teach women how to decode confusing dynamics, regulate their own responses, and spot the hidden red flags of avoidant or narcissistic partners before they get pulled in deeper.
I specialize in helping them interrupt recycled trauma responses. stop silencing themselves, and find a new way forward that's rooted in clarity, self-worth, and connection that actually feels safe.
My work supports female clients who are ready to:
- Heal from divorce, betrayal, or breakup
- Disengage from a cycle with a negative communicator, avoidant, or narcissist
- Untangle years of over-functioning
- Stop chasing potential and start honoring yourself
I will guide you back to your truth with clarity, compassion, and the strategy to actually change the pattern, regain confidence, and finally feel free.
FOR MEN:
Step up, face the wounds holding you back, and build unstoppable strength in every area of your life.
You're not the only man who feels stuck. Who shuts down. Who tries to fix instead of feel. If you grew up emotionally on your own or were betrayed by your ex, your nervous system learned survival, not connection.
Emotional injury activates your stress response, flooding your system with cortisol, disrupting sleep, and throwing your emotional regulation off balance. Over time this can leave you swinging between reactivity and numbness, both of which erode connection. But when you name your wounds and receive the right support, you can shift from survival mode and learn to connect in a way that's honest, grounded, and powerful.
My work supports male clients who are ready to:
I will help you stop hiding behind performance, control, reactivity, or withdrawal, and start showing up with real male strength.
You're not the only man who feels stuck. Who shuts down. Who tries to fix instead of feel. If you grew up emotionally on your own or were betrayed by your ex, your nervous system learned survival, not connection.
Emotional injury activates your stress response, flooding your system with cortisol, disrupting sleep, and throwing your emotional regulation off balance. Over time this can leave you swinging between reactivity and numbness, both of which erode connection. But when you name your wounds and receive the right support, you can shift from survival mode and learn to connect in a way that's honest, grounded, and powerful.
My work supports male clients who are ready to:
- Heal trauma showing up in relationships and communication, especially the pain of mother wounds, partner betrayal, or history of addiction.
- Pinpoint triggers and correlated trauma responses: freeze, flee, blame, shame, withdrawal, silence, or rage.
- End the cycle of emotional reactivity, avoidance, and shutdown, and stop recycling your trauma in every relationship.
- Navigate repair after conflict without losing your power or abandoning yourself to keep the peace.
I will help you stop hiding behind performance, control, reactivity, or withdrawal, and start showing up with real male strength.
FOR COUPLES:
You're not alone. You're just in a pattern.
I help couples recognize and repair communication patterns and attachment styles that block intimacy.
Whether it looks like shutting down, blowing up, withdrawing love, or walking on eggshells, these are not your fault. These are survival strategies rooted in old wounds.
But they don't have to ruin your relationship.
My work supports couples who are ready to:
We will decode the dynamics keeping you stuck, break the cycle and rebuild from truth. You'll get the tools you need to build the connection you really want: honest, safe, and real.
I help couples recognize and repair communication patterns and attachment styles that block intimacy.
Whether it looks like shutting down, blowing up, withdrawing love, or walking on eggshells, these are not your fault. These are survival strategies rooted in old wounds.
But they don't have to ruin your relationship.
My work supports couples who are ready to:
- Learn to decode your patterns and rebuild emotional safety
- Communicate without blame, shame, labeling or shutdown
- Repair trust and restore connection
- Create a 'Safe Relationship' where honesty is honored and ruptures are repaired quickly
We will decode the dynamics keeping you stuck, break the cycle and rebuild from truth. You'll get the tools you need to build the connection you really want: honest, safe, and real.
GRIEF SUPPORT
Do you need help coping?
Loss shatters more than your plans. It shakes your identity, your nervous system, and your ability to feel safe in the world again.
In the intial stages of grief coaching, we walk step-by-step through the impact of your loss and begin the sacred work of healing.
With grounded support and trauma-informed tools, you’ll learn how to:
Let’s begin.
I can help you break the cycle and move on.
What most people don’t tell you is this:
After deep grief, something else is possible. Not just recovery, but radical transformation.
It's easy to get stuck in grief. Some people never face it or heal. But the truth is, there is power in the healing. Not in spite of your pain, but because of who you’ve become through it.
Together, we’ll move from survival into self-reclamation. You’ll learn how to:
Loss shatters more than your plans. It shakes your identity, your nervous system, and your ability to feel safe in the world again.
In the intial stages of grief coaching, we walk step-by-step through the impact of your loss and begin the sacred work of healing.
With grounded support and trauma-informed tools, you’ll learn how to:
- Name the specific grief you’re carrying (even hidden kinds)
- Stay present through pain without bypassing it
- Process emotion safely and regulate your nervous system
- Reconnect to your voice, your needs, and your inner stability
Let’s begin.
I can help you break the cycle and move on.
What most people don’t tell you is this:
After deep grief, something else is possible. Not just recovery, but radical transformation.
It's easy to get stuck in grief. Some people never face it or heal. But the truth is, there is power in the healing. Not in spite of your pain, but because of who you’ve become through it.
Together, we’ll move from survival into self-reclamation. You’ll learn how to:
- Rebuild your life with clarity, boldness, and joy
- Identify what you want and start naming it out loud
- Stop merely surviving loss and start designing what’s next
- Transform grief into a new kind of beauty, inside and out
Testimonials
ABOUT NORA
I’m Nora Retana, a communication expert, relationship coach, and creator of the T.R.U.T.H. Method™ -- a bold, trauma-informed approach to healing communication, self-worth, and relationships by getting radically honest about what’s really driving your patterns.
Most people settle for performing connection while hiding their truth. They’re stuck in silence, blame, people-pleasing, or avoidance. It doesn't mean they’re broken, but old wounds have taught them that safety meant staying quiet. That love required self-abandonment. And being fully themselves would cost them connection. In other words, they didn't learn to love or be loved safely.
Whether you’re a woman who’s learned to silence parts of yourself or downregulate your needs just to stay connected to someone emotionally unequipped for intimacy, a man who's tired of shutting down when things get real, or a couple cycling through the same fights without repair, you are not here by accident.
You’re ready to stop disappearing. To stop editing yourself for approval. To stop deactivating your feelings to stay safe. To start living in truth, even when it feels risky.
And I’m here for that.
My Approach: The T.R.U.T.H. Method™. Because clarity heals more than silence ever could.
Most people settle for performing connection while hiding their truth. They’re stuck in silence, blame, people-pleasing, or avoidance. It doesn't mean they’re broken, but old wounds have taught them that safety meant staying quiet. That love required self-abandonment. And being fully themselves would cost them connection. In other words, they didn't learn to love or be loved safely.
Whether you’re a woman who’s learned to silence parts of yourself or downregulate your needs just to stay connected to someone emotionally unequipped for intimacy, a man who's tired of shutting down when things get real, or a couple cycling through the same fights without repair, you are not here by accident.
You’re ready to stop disappearing. To stop editing yourself for approval. To stop deactivating your feelings to stay safe. To start living in truth, even when it feels risky.
And I’m here for that.
My Approach: The T.R.U.T.H. Method™. Because clarity heals more than silence ever could.
What Makes This Different?
This isn’t talk-it-out coaching. It’s get-to-the-root work, where trauma meets truth, and avoidance has nowhere left to hide. Whether you’ve been silenced in love, stuck in blame, or afraid of being truly seen, I help you find the clarity, strategy, and voice to change the pattern for good. When you learn to speak your truth without shame, apology, or trauma, everything changes. Your relationships. Your confidence. Your peace.
Why Is This Work Is Different?
✔️ I don’t do surface-level strategy. I do truth-work that lasts.
✔️ I don’t coach you to perform “healthier.” I help you transform and live with integrity.
✔️ I don’t bypass emotion. I help you articulate it with precision and power.
Why Work With Nora?
✔️ You’ll get real insight and structure. No performance coaching, no bypassing, and no b.s..
✔️ You’ll learn how to communicate in a way that lands, leads, and lasts, even when it's hard.
✔️ You’ll become the version of yourself that no longer begs, chases or hides, but shows up in your full, grounded truth.
Who Will You Become?
✔️ A woman who trusts herself again and doesn't second-guess her voice.
✔️ A man who leads with emotional integrity, not ego or avoidance.
✔️ A couple who speaks the hard truths and stays present through it, because safety no longer means silence.
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Why I Do This Work
And that’s the heart of my work: Helping you name the truth you’ve always felt but never had words for, so you can stop surviving and start living.
I’ve devoted my career to helping people unlock their personal and professional potential through the transformative power of communication. I specialize in identifying the patterns that block connection, growth, and emotional well-being, and teach the tools that open the door to deeper connections, clarity, and trust.
With two decades of experience guiding high-level executives, global teams, and individuals through crisis, conflict, and communication breakdowns, I bring a rare depth to relational coaching. Whether navigating political polarization in Congress or helping couples find the words for what’s been unsaid for years, I’ve spent my career creating breakthroughs in high-stakes conversations. The context may change, but the skillset is the same: when the stakes are high, clarity matters most.
My passion is guiding individuals beyond the limits, habits, and fears shaped by their past, and into the kind of communication that builds real connection. I work with those who are ready for stronger, more honest, and more fulfilling relationships—both with themselves and others.
My T.R.U.T.H. Method™ is grounded in trauma-informed principles and offers a skillset that’s rarely taught but much needed. Whether working with men, women, or couples, I help clients overcome the emotional and relational challenges that keep them stuck—and give them the language to move forward.
I believe healing begins when truth is spoken with compassion, and that communication is one of the most powerful tools we have for transformation.
Credentials & Training
- Certified Coach, Professional Christian Coaching & Counseling Academy
- Certified Grief Educator, David Kessler Institute
- Certificate in Teaching Men’s Studies, American Men’s Studies Association
- Certificate in Christian Grief Counseling, Maranatha Chapel
- Trained Chaplain, Sharing Hope in Crisis (Billy Graham Rapid Response Team)
- B.A., English, UCLA
CONTACT
- 5151 Shoreham Place Suite 200, San Diego, CA, USA
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